By John T. Peters

If you’re upset about something at work or if you’re otherwise stressed about your commute or something someone said, this post is for you.

The other day, I was on a Delta flight. It was a small plane (maybe 15 rows in all) flying from Ithaca to Detroit to connect to Chicago. It was a short, smooth flight. The flight attendant (a woman who I guess was in her early 60s) was expertly and quickly serving beverages. It’s Breast Cancer Awareness month, so she was wearing a pink ribbon pin. The female passenger sitting in front of me asked the flight attendant “Are you a survivor?” Her response, delivered with a smile, was “Twice!” The passenger then said “I just lost my sister last month…” and they proceeded to have a quiet, personal conversation. As they conversed, the flight attendant continued prepping cups with ice, etc. but not in a way that was disrespectful. They talked for a few minutes. I saw the flight attendant put her hand on the woman’s shoulder and the passenger’s head leaned towards the flight attendant’s hand. It was a raw, beautiful moment between two strangers who found an immediate connection. Just then, the man sitting behind me, who couldn’t hear the conversation, started complaining to his seatmate about the slow service. I turned around and said “There’s a reason they’re talking, just chill a minute.” His response? “I can only imagine.” Well, I thought, no you can’t. There’s a lesson here; we need to take a step back and evaluate what’s really important in life.

I have family members who are ill and friends who are ill and friends who have lost their spouses. You think they care about anything other than getting better? No, because they’ve been given a glimpse of reality. They know health is the most important thing. They know life is fleeting. You’d think we too would learn to appreciate life more. We see these things and for a moment, or an hour or a day, we do, but sooner or later, we forget.

I’m blessed with a special needs niece who has taught me more about what’s really important in life than most other people. You want to get a better perspective on life? Spend time in a children’s hospital. You’ll *never* look at your work email inbox the same again because, and here’s the point of this post, in the scheme of life, it’s irrelevant. That person at the office who always disagrees with you? Irrelevant. Being upset or annoyed about most anything work related? Irrelevant and a waste of time and energy. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be passionate about what you do, but take it all in stride. Do your job to the fullest, be passionate but don’t sweat the small stuff.

I proudly serve on the board of Make-A-Wish (Mid-Atlantic region) because helping children is a priority of mine. Plus, it grounds me. So, if you know me, you know I don’t take myself too seriously. You know I inject humor in most everything. You know I love my family and doing just about anything with my kids, including sewing patches on my daughter’s Girl Scout uniform or making funny art with breakfast food just to make the kids smile. Some people at work may think I come off aloof sometimes, but really, I’m listening to you complain about something so stupid, I only wish there were some way I could help you see what you’re missing. The truth is, it’s hard. We’re so embroiled with our days. It happens to me too.

The other lesson here is you never know what is going on with someone. If someone is being an idiot at the office, maybe they just had a fight with their spouse or maybe they’re in financial trouble or maybe someone they love is sick. Hey, its life, it happens. So, before you rail on them, pause. Don’t attack, just relax. Don’t complain, just explain. You’ll likely find there is more to that person than you realize. You may even find an opportunity to be there for them, like the above mentioned flight attendant. Sure, they may genuinely be a toxic, negative person. That happens too sometimes. If that’s the case, just walk away and forget it. Let it roll off your back, just like water off a duck. The thing to do with these people is avoid them.

Then, call your spouse and tell her or him you love them. Kiss and hug your kids. Call your parents to say you love them. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Breathe. Enjoy today. Enjoy now.

source: http://johntpeters.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/upset-stressed-at-work-read-this/

這些天看的這些事太有感觸了，真的很想讓身邊的姐妹知道，選男人千萬不要挑走眼......

也許以後，這些事也會發生在我們身上........

在婦產科實習快三週了，下面就是我遇到的極品事件，件件屬實......

先說說在產科病房的。

產科病房的病人，有保胎的，待產的，產後的，總之，個個都是危險病號。 70幾個患者，倒有十幾個都是病危。

第一個：

這個患者很奇怪，住院至少三週了，從我剛進病房實習起就知道她住院，一直以為她是待產的，前幾天瞄了一眼病歷，嚇了我一跳~~，原來是保胎的重病號。

讓我瞠目結舌的孕8產0：02年~03年~04年~05年各人流一次，07~08~09各自流一次。

我無意中聽到的，有一次自流只是因為用力咳嗽了一下......

於是乎這次懷孕早早的住院了~~為了生這個孩子只能天天臥床~~

大家都明白吧~~人流做多了，就成了習慣性流產了......

ps：她男人很欠抽。你丫自己不負責，女人就該受這種罪?

第二個：

某日送一個病人去手術室做剖腹產，病房在4樓D區，要把病人推到二樓，經過一個長長的換向通道到醫院A區，再去13樓手術室，推病人去手術室是個漫長的過程。當然一堆患者家屬跟著一起去。

我把這個病人送到手術室門口以後，她老公問我，手術多久做完?

我說，一個小時吧。

又問，那我們去哪兒看孩子?

我說，回病房等著。

他說，那我們跟你一起回去吧。

我說，還有什麼跟病人說的麼?

他看了眼旁邊的老太太(應該是他媽媽)：沒了吧?我們回病房等孩子就行了。

我忍無可忍，「你就不問問你老婆做完手術你們在哪接?」

PS：這樣的人我這些天見的太多了，多到總結出了規律。那些追著我問在哪看孩子的，準是男方家屬。那些追著我問在哪兒接病人的，準是女方家屬。別覺得我片面，真的就是這樣。那些要當爹的男人啊，你們要當爹的了，你們是高興，但也別忘了自己老婆啊。馬上要手術了，不知道安撫一下麼?不知道說句別害怕之類的麼?只問孩子不問孩子媽了???我要是你老婆我得難過死......

第三個：

也是送手術病人去手術室，很多家屬跟著，但是其中只有一個男的。是患者老公。

推病床的是一些上了年紀的女人，應該是七大姑八大姨之類的。

她們說，護士你在前面引路就行啦。我們來推；

我說，不用太快了，慢點，不著急，注意安全

患者老公一邊擺弄手機一邊問，手術要多久?

我說一個多小時吧。你們把病人送到手術室，跟我推空床回病房等著就行。

結果那個男人一邊擺弄手機一邊不耐煩的說了句，要這麼久啊......醫院的信號不太好啊。把這床推快點吧，早點送到了我就早點回去了，還有事呢。

我說不行，慢點推，一定要注意安全。

後來把病人送到了手術室，我就帶著這些家屬回病房。途中患者老公被麻醉師叫去簽字了。

等他一走，那些女家屬就七嘴八舌說上了

我們家這個少爺啊，嘛也不懂。自己老婆都住院4天了，今天要手術了，才剛來醫院看看

他有什麼事啊?剛才這麼著急要走?

他能有什麼事啊!嫌醫院信號不好，手機上網上不去，耽誤他收菜了!

PS：我當時那個暈啊!!!!!!都快雷焦了........這樣人事不懂的男人能當爸爸?

再說說產房的

第一天值夜班的時候，凌晨2點多有個難產的，我老師估計那個患者的孩子至少有4kg重，本來不建議順產的，但是患者家屬說順產對孩子好，非要順產不可，那個患者受的那個罪啊......我就不細表了，都能想像到吧。

第二產程已經超過了2個小時，孩子頭還是沒出來。患者當時產力也嚴重透支了。

老師又摸不到孩子的耳朵，遲遲不敢側切。

我老師和我都很著急。學醫的都應該知道，第二產程超過兩小時，就要上產鉗了。

後來老師硬著頭皮側切了......

終於終於順娩出一個男嬰，4.1kg......但是窒息嚴重。

我吸氧也用上了，復甦囊也用上了。老師對著孩子的後背和腳背一通狠拍，那孩子就是哭不出來。

當時老師說，孩子啊，你快哭吧，你再不哭我們可要哭了......

醫院沒有兒科病房，產房醫生趕緊聯繫了120，連夜把孩子送到了二附屬。

我慌慌張張的去找患者家屬。只有兩個家屬，是患者老公和婆婆。

一聽說孩子要轉院，他們立刻就跟著去了。

我說你們好歹留下個家屬啊。產房這邊也許還有情況呢。

患者老公不耐煩的說了句，還能有什麼情況啊。說完就走了。

結果呢，那個精疲力盡的患者就一直在產房躺著。

她跟我說，護士，我渴了，你幫我找我家屬把我杯子要來行麼?我實在太渴了。

我說，產房太忙，我現在不能出去。

我實在不忍心告訴她，你家屬都看孩子去了!誰還管你啊!!我上哪找你家屬去!

當然我也不能看著她渴著......趁老師不注意拿吸氧氣的瓶子倒了杯水餵她喝了。本來這個患者應該只在產房觀察兩小時的，結果她孤零零的在產房躺了快5個小時......患者家屬才回來把她推回病房。

ps：嫁給這樣的男人，遇上這樣的婆婆，算她倒霉......以後我找老公可要擦亮眼......

還有個昨天遇到的......也是個難產的，更嚴重些，下了產鉗。

等完全結束時，我全身都是血。

費了好大勁把這個患者從產床挪到了平車上。又沾了我兩手的血。

當時血有多少呢?我推車運病人的時候，手上的血都和車粘在了一起。

我和一個跟我差不多瘦的醫生費了好大勁把病人推出了產房。

再看患者老公......拿著個dv，一邊拍一邊唸叨著「寶貝兒你可出來了」

周圍很多家屬(都是上了年紀的女眷)一看我和醫生滿身是血，都過來搶著推車。我和醫生看著患者老公，拿著dv拍的津津有味的，都很無語。

好不容易把患者推到了病房，要把患者從平車挪到病床上。

一般都是患者自己坐起來，腳一蹬床，手一撐，自己就挪過去了。

無奈這個患者太虛弱了。坐不起來。

這時兩個老太太說，我們把她抱過去吧。

但是這兩個老太太也沒什麼力氣，折騰了一通，，血流的滿床都是。還是抬不起來。

再看患者老公，面帶微笑，面露喜色，拿著dv還在拍!一邊拍還一面念叨著，寶貝兒你真有本事~~

我老師忍無可忍：「那個男同志!你過來幫個忙啊!這力氣活兒你不干，拍什麼啊?」患者老公這才戀戀不捨的放下dv把患者一把抱上了病床......

ps：我當時真快破口大罵了......拍你大爺啊!!!!你除了嘴上說了幾句好聽的，還會幹別的麼?

剖腹產的具體過程我還沒有見到。只是在病房見到了不少剛剛做完剖腹產的病人。

要臥床至少六小時才能翻個身，很難受很難受。雖然有止疼泵，但還是會疼的病人直叫。

而順產的過程......我真的不想形容具體過程了。

到底怎麼樣的疼，能讓這些成年人疼到哭都沒力氣?

我聽到n多患者在疼的時候說「我要死了」「我再也不生了」「我活不了了」「讓我剖吧我不生了」「給我1000萬我也不生了」「我要有力氣我現在就跑到手術室去剖」，等等等等

這些患者的老公，戀愛時也曾經把她們當成最珍貴的寶貝。

為人父母，都應該是喜悅的

可是作為孩子的父親，在喜悅中做出的這些最本能最真實的反應，又說明了什麼呢?

我一個局外人，都有些看不下去了......

這樣的男人，真的不配女人為他們受這樣的苦。

望眾姐妹擦亮眼~~

挑老公是人生的大事，千萬不能走眼......

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